Prototype Issue
Dating in Los Angeles
Posted by Lucia
Is dating in Los Angeles more difficult than dating in other cities? Find out how to stand out in a city of 9's and 10's.
More often than not, if you mention the phrase “dating in L.A.”, you’ll hear more moans and groans than Jenna Jameson’s latest film. Dating in L.A. can be difficult, however, I prefer to use the term “challenging.” Is dating different here than in other cities? As they say in Minnesota, “You betcha!” I’ve dated in 4 countries, 6 cities and 2 continents, so I speak from experience.
Why is it different here? I believe there are several factors that contribute to this. The first one is that there are a disproportionate number of attractive people here. Hot men and women from all over the country and from other countries also, come here with some type of show business dream. I had wanted to live here since I was 8 and I was living in Italy when I decided it was time to make the move. The good news is that there are a lot of above average looking people to choose from. The bad news is that there is more competition than normal.
The second factor which I believe contributes to the unusual dating scene in Los Angeles is the weather. If we draw a parallel between the 4 seasons and the stages of life, birth to age 19 is spring and ages 20-39 are summer. L.A. has summer weather for a majority of the year. This has a psychological effect in that people don’t feel the passing of time as much as they would in a colder climate. They don’t feel as if they’re getting older. It always feels like summer vacation. The prevailing attitude is: have fun and live for the moment. This of course does not bode well for any type of serious relationship.
What can one do you ask? How does one stand out in a sea of 9’s and 10’s? I have 2 suggestions:
1. Dress a bit differently from everyone else. Women these days are all wearing tight, low rise jeans, a small blouse and heels. To quote an article in a recent issue of GQ: “When did this become the official uniform of going out? When you broke out this look a few years ago, we were all grateful. But now we’re bored. Isn’t there something new? Like a dress? Something sexy to make us notice you again?” I couldn’t agree more. It’s time to start looking like ladies. It’s time to start wearing skirts and dresses. Don’t be afraid to wear the ones that go down to the knee. These can be just as sexy as minis, especially if they are tight or have a short slit. Men, enough with the uniform of baseball cap, T-shirt and long shorts. I know that look is comfortable, but a nice pair of pants and a cool shirt would attract more attention. Women notice these things.
2. Have class. This is not as prevalent as you might think. Yes, everyone looks good, but once you get a glimpse behind the face and clothes, a lot of times you’re disappointed. A lot of people in Los Angeles are like Ferraris without engines – they look great on the outside, but when you look inside, there’s nothing there. Class is a rare commodity. It’s hard to describe, but when someone has it, you know it. They stand out, in a good way. It has nothing to do with money. Someone can be dirt poor, wearing a potato sack and have class. On the other hand, someone could be wearing a $20,000 dress with millions in the bank, and still not have class. Examples of people with class are Christie Brinkley, Oprah, Sophia Loren, George Clooney and Tom Hanks. It has to do with manners, being a nice person, being real, having self-respect and not using profanity. You naturally feel good around someone classy and want to be with them.
So there you have it – how to navigate the dating scene in L.A. See, it’s not so hopeless!
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